During a recent PSI Teleseminar on forgiveness, Basic Facilitator Trainer, Kathy Quinlan-Perez shared a powerful technique that can be used to support the process of forgiveness. It’s a technique that’s taught in the Basic Seminar based on the philosophy “To Think is to Create”.
Screen of the Mind is a visualization technique in which you see a situation as it is on the screen of your mind, then replace that situation with your desired outcome. PSI Seminars did not pioneer this technique; it’s been used by many of the greatest minds throughout history. It’s taught in the Basic Seminar, and many PSI graduates have used it to manifest their goals ranging from improved health to greater wealth to creating an ideal relationship.
How can you use Screen of the Mind in relation to forgiveness? Continue reading Using Screen of the Mind for Forgiveness…
Forgiveness is letting go of resentment that resulted from an offense, whether intentional or not, that happened in the past. It is a commitment to leave the hurt of the past where it belongs – in the past – and to not let that past upset hurt your present or future, or anyone else’s.
Relationships thrive, spiritual connections deepen, and even health improves when we practice forgiveness. So why can it be so hard to forgive?
You may have experienced that the hardest person to forgive is yourself.
There are many ways you can hold a grudge against yourself ranging from letting others make decisions for you because you no longer trust yourself to engaging in unhealthy relationships because you believe that is what you deserve. Continue reading Learning to Forgive Yourself…
When someone has hurt you, offended you, or disappointed you – whether intentionally or accidentally – the pain may last long after the incident. Often the pain turns into resentment, that acidic indignation that slowly eats away at relationships. Or sometimes the resentment bubbles over into full-fledged revenge, compelling you to “get even”, seek retribution, or inflict harm on your transgressors.
Throughout the journey of life, upsets are likely going to happen along the way. So, how can you accept them without letting resistance, resentment, and revenge taking over your life?
By practicing forgiveness.
It’s easy to resent someone and hold a grudge. Forgiveness, however, may take effort. The more you practice it, the easier it becomes to develop an attitude of forgiveness, and move through the process of forgiving those who have hurt you.
Here are 3 keys to guide you in forgiving:
1. Understand that forgiveness does not excuse or condone your transgressor’s behavior. Many people don’t want to forgive because they feel as though it validates the words or actions of those who have hurt them. On the contrary, forgiveness frees you from the negative feelings associated with those words or actions. Forgiveness does not make the other person right; it simply release’s that person’s hold over you.
2. Consider the prices you’ve paid by not forgiving. What has it cost your relationships? Your health? Your finances? your time? When you look at the price you pay for holding onto resentment, you realize that resentment isn’t poisoning your transgressors, it’s poisoning you. This can make it easier to release the power those who have hurt you have on your life.
3. Forgiveness is for you. Different people have different ways of forgiving. Some people want to express it to those they are forgiving, either by writing it or speaking it. Some people do not wish to verbalize it in any way. They may choose to consciously, actively forgive, yet not express it. Some find solace in writing it in a diary, singing it in a song, or by any other means of artistic expression. The point is that you get to decide what it looks like based on what feels right for you.
Forgiveness is not always easy. The benefits of forgiveness, greater peace of mind, improved health, and happier relationships, however, do make it worth the effort.